It's awful to feel this way especially as it was what I really wanted for years. I was so jealous of people who had babies but now I'm jealous of people with freedom. Even other mums seem to get nights out with friends or partners so why can't I.
After constant moaning 'I need a break' my hubby took both kids to his parents last Saturday so I could have a few hours . Finally he listened I thought so I had a look round shops without kids whining and a soak in the bath in silence but then received a text to say to join them as surely 6 hours was enough uh! No it wasn't but I went anyway as I felt guilty. As soon as I got there I'm handed Joel to feed and entertain - what a joke. Everyone needs time out I'm no different I think I need to grow some balls and demand time and say no when I don't want to do something. Other people get away with it so why shouldn't I it's not being selfish its to keep me sane and an attempt to enjoy being at home with my kids.
You need to put your foot down. If you allow your partner space and time and listen to his needs then h should be the same towards you before you resent him and your children.
ReplyDeleteYou sound very low, just because you have babies doesn't mean you have to lose your time, yourself of course it'll never be like before you're not asking for that but a few hours here and there is important. I hope you get the support you deserve x
I have been a bit low over the past few weeks as lots on my mind with not going back to work, finances, dealing with constant tantrums and I've also been suffering with lower back pain.
ReplyDeleteI do talk about how I feel a lot to my hubby and other family but I do feel its to deaf ears most of the time or I'm just seen to get on with it but I have had enough now. Only so much I can take.
I really do feel for you, doesn't sound fair at all :( I usually end up snapping shame it takes that for people to see what's really going on x
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